Monday, November 20, 2017

Are you trying to make the wrong shoes fit?

Are you trying to make the wrong shoes fit? - Last week was an interesting one for me. I returned to L.A. after spending a week in Chicago, mulling over a couple of conversations I'd had with a client while I was there.
I asked him if I could share his story with you, not using his real name and details of course, as I felt there were some lessons here that would benefit my readers. He gave me his permission to do just that.

So, we'll call him Jim for the sake of this story.

Now Jim is a very fortunate man. He's fifty, fit and financially sound. He divorced eight years ago, has grown-up  kids and a couple of young nephews he loves as if they were his own. He owns his own business which he's built from the ground up, and which makes him a VERY good living. He plays golf, is passionate about cars, and takes vacations in Hawaii and the Caribbean. In short Jim lives the kind of life many of us would love to be living.
Are you trying to make the wrong shoes fit?

But of course something was missing. Love.

Jim needed to fill the space in his heart, so out and about he went to find a soul mate. He met women online and offline; through dating agencies and friends; through well meaning matchmakers and at professional gatherings; at the theater and even on a plane once. Jim dated some lovely women, but the problem was that none of them was PERFECT.

Jim by now was so set in his ways, that he didn't know how to make room in his life for another 'real person'--he had an image in his head, his dream woman, and none of the real, emotional, flawed HUMAN people he met, seemed to measure up to his 10 out of 10 vision of perfection.

And then he met her. Picture perfect, young, fresh, flawless. He fell hard, just like those avalanches I was talking about last week--completely, chaotically, loudly and MESSILY. Anyone caught in his path got swept away. She was the ONE. Jim moved heaven and earth to woo this delectable young lady, with the face as smooth and beautiful as a piece of fine porcelain. They started dating.

At first all went well. Jim swept her off her feet with lavish dinners, trips to the Spa, weekends away in Vegas, and even a surprise trip to Paris. He bought her gifts, jewelry and flowers every week.

At first she seemed to enjoy Jim's company as much as he did hers. They would talk intensely, laugh at each others jokes, have fun and of course make crazy 'passion.' But before too long, within a matter of only a few weeks, Jim noticed some troubling signs. She's was irritable with him, seemed distracted--bored even. She's make excuses not to see him on certain nights, and when she did, wasn't as affectionate as before.

And her demands got greater too. She was unimpressed with the one carat earrings, and under-whelmed with anything that wasn't from Prada, Channel or some equally prestigious brand name...

Jim started trying harder. More expensive gifts, more exotic trips away, a credit card with a $25,000 limit, and even a sports car. He took more time away from his business, a day here and there, and then a week, or even two. He'd go in late in the mornings, but was struggling to put his heart back in it at all...all he could think about was her, and the creeping dread that he was about to lose his dream.

He started driving by her house those evenings he wasn't with her, snooping through her pockets when he was. Jim got more desperate, she got more dismissive and disgusted with him, and the whole thing spiraled into a car wreck of a situation.

She left him of course. And Jim is still paying a heavy price. Not only did he spend tens of thousands of dollars trying to buy her affection, but he let his business go downhill too, and is now desperately trying to get back to where he was before he met her. It's going to take a long time. Lots of customers are not generous with second chances as Jim is discovering. He let himself go as well, physically, emotionally and mentally. His confidence is battered too.

Jim found out things about himself that he really didn't like: his poor judgement, his superficiality, his almost-adolescent grabbing for a girl half his age,  his innate jealousy, his willingness to sacrifice his self-respect. He learnt how fragile the whole facade of his life had been, and how easily it could collapse. These are valuable lessons indeed, but I know Jim would rather never have had to learn them. Yup, Jim squandered money, friendships, peace of mind--even success--chasing vaporware.

Jim knows now that he was wrong-headed. He was thinking with his ego, and his libido, not his heart. That he mistook yearning, for loving. He tried to make something fit that was never going to, like shoes that are way too tight but you keep wearing regardless of blisters, pain and ugly rubbing, because you think if you persevere you'll finally mould those darn shoes to fit you. Yup, Jim was trying to make the wrong shoes fit.

I wanted to share Jim's story, as it's one that as a Life Coach, I see way too often in different versions and flavors. As more and more folks get divorced a great many find themselves single and hopeful that they will get a chance to find love a second, or even third, time around. Some carry a ton of old emotional baggage, others arrive at this place, mature and confident (just like Jim), but nearly all of them arrive with unreasonable expectations. Too many end up trying to force-fit their ideals into a too-tight shoe.

I am a great believer in soul mates. I know that when you are with the right person, it may not be all sweetness and light, you might verbally tussle with each other now and again, you may disagree on lots of things, you may enjoy different past-times, and have different ambitions. You may like different foods, have different friends, spend a lot of time apart, disagree on politics, and vacations. But I also know that NONE of that matters as long as you share a deep mutual trust, respect, affection and connection; an easiness and an openness so that whenever you are together it feels just like coming home after a long, hard trip; a sense of 'safeness' born of knowing that your back is covered by your best friend; a shared, quiet delight in each other that's hard to explain, but that seeps into your bloodstream, warms your heart and that you slip on like a favorite pair of snug, soft, comfortable slippers.

If you're struggling to decide if you're in the right relationship, just ask yourself one simple question: "Am I Trying To Make The Wrong Shoes Fit?"

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Who wears thigh high boots?

Who wears thigh high boots? - You do not have to be a go-go dancer to wear thigh high boots.  There are plenty of women these days that like to look sexy and feel good in a pair of boots.  These fun and flirty thigh high boots are just what the doctor order to perk up some flare for women of all ages and all backgrounds.  You do not have to have just one personality to wear a boot like this. 

There are many young women today that like to wear the thigh high boot to make they look flirty at the nightclubs and dance bars that they go to.  With a short little dress or skirt and a pair of thigh highs, a women can look as hot as she ever could.  Men would be sure to take a second look at any woman that comes in with a hot pair of these on. 
Who wears thigh high boots?

Although thigh high have a reputation for being only for sexy and short outfits, that may not be the case.  There are plenty of outfit ideas that you can fit with a pair of thigh high boots.  Many women can pair them up with a long skirt or dress or even a pair of shorts.  Women do not have to wear just one certain look with these boots.  That is the best part about these fun creations.  You do not have to stick to the normal look; you can have fun and use them with your personal dress code.

There are a lot of different styles of these thigh high boots to choose from.   Some are a little more risky and kinky than others.  The women who want to look flirty and free may want to try the wilder and bolder styles.  These colors are awesome and some even have neat designs and decorative items on them.  There are boots with sequins, beads and even fringe on them. 

While there are the women who want to live free and have a wild time in their boots, there is the more conservative kind that would rather stick to the less noticeable styles. For these women, they would rather stick to the regular boots that are found in white or black.  These are still hot and sexy, just not as elaborate as the bolder styles are.

You do not have to be a certain age to wear thigh high boots.  There is no age limit for having fun and look hot.  With a pair of thigh high boots, you can feel as young and as free as you want.  An age does not define who you are.  It is your personality that you need to match up with.  When you want to look hot and feel fun, you will defiantly find all that and more with a pair of thigh high boots. 

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Air Jordan Sneakers

Air Jordan sneakers are a range of sneakers that have been around for some time. The idea of these Air Jordan sneakers was put forward by none other then Michael Jordan himself. There have been over 20 pairs of Air Jordan sneakers released over the years. And even the most die-hard Michael Jordan fan would have had some trouble getting their hands on all these types of sneakers. Now however the Air Jordan clothing range has also been released and they fit in nicely with a pair of Air Jordan sneakers on your feet.
Air Jordan Sneakers


Availability for a pair of Air Jordan sneakers can be in short supply. Trying to find the perfect pair of Air Jordan sneakers can take you sometime. You may know which pair you want but then you will have trouble trying to find the right place to purchase them. seems to always have an unlimited stock of Air Jordan sneakers and you can be sure that you will be buying quality sneakers. Depending on what type of Air Jordan sneakers you will want availability might be in short supply. There are some pairs of these Air Jordan sneakers that have sold out very quickly straight after they have been released. However there are companies that still have certain sets of Air Jordan's available for purchase. If you want to buy these Air Jordan sneakers in bulk then you are more then welcome to make a purchase at our website. It is usually better to purchase a pair of Air Jordan sneakers online, as they are usually cheaper in price. The high street stores are trying to lower their prices in a bid to win the battle with these online stores. But it seems that they are losing this battle as many more people are turning to the Internet in an attempt to get cheaper products.


The materials used for a pair of Air Jordan sneakers will greatly depend on which type of Air Jordanís you wish to buy. The earlier pairs were made out of plastic, while the later pairs of Air Jordanís were made of leather, thus making better Air Jordan sneakers. This can then justify the price tag that is on nearly every pair of Air Jordan sneakers. As soon as a new pair of Air Jordan sneakers hit the market, they seem to always start at the retail price of $150. This is not extremely expensive for some, plus if you want to keep yourself up to date then you will not mind spending this kind of money on a pair of Air Jordan sneakers.

Sunday, November 12, 2017

Why Mountain Bike Shoes?

Why Mountain Bike Shoes? - To increase your enjoyment of mountain biking, the right shoe is essential. A shoe designed specifically for the mountain biker is the way to go.

Mountain bike shoes come in a variety of prices, from the inexpensive $70 range, up to over $400. The amount of money you pay depends entirely on whether or not you are a casual, once-a-month rider, a serious hobbyist, or someone who competes in races - either amateur or professional.

What is it about mountain bike shoes that make them a) important to have and b) so expensive?
Why Mountain Bike Shoes?

Shoes designed specifically for cycling have stiff soles, which helps the cyclist in transferring the power from his legs and feet to the pedals and thence to the chain for greater speed. Since the road cyclist is expected to be on his or her bike at all times without having to do a great deal of walking, they normally have a protruding cleat which slots into the recess on their pedals.

A protruding cleat would be of no use to the mountain biker, who quite frequently has to get off the bike and wheel or carry it around obstacles. So mountain bike shoes have recessed cleats, that won't interfere with walking, and aren't made with a totally rigid sole, but one that will give just a little bit.

There are dozens of mountain biking shoes on the market. Men will find a wider variety of designs then women, nevertheless there are quite a few styles designed specifically for the smaller foot of the average woman.

What makes the mountain bike shoe so important?
The occasional biker usually doesn't bother with toe clips or clipless pedals....they just hop on their bike and they're away. However, the serious cyclist wants to get all the power he or she can out of a pedaling, and with the shoe firmly attached to the pedal - either with a toeclip or by a cleat, the cyclist can pull upward on the pedal as well as simultaneously pushing downward on the other pedal, which increases the speed of the bike.

What makes the mountain bike shoe so expensive?
Well, as with any shoe, the price comes down to what the shoe is made of.  The lighter the shoe is, the better for the racer. But, lightness comes expensive. Carbon fiber soles are the lightest soles on the market - carbon fiber is more expensive to produce than injection-molded plastic, or plastic and fiberglass.

However, the average rider should be able to get a pair of mountain biking shoes for less than a hundred dollars.

Saturday, November 11, 2017

Women's Shoes

Women's Shoes - Women's Shoes & Not necessarily Expensive

A pair of new shoes might not cure a broken heart or soothe a tension headache but they will relieve the symptoms and chase away the blues these words were written by the famous Fashion critic, Holly Brubach. Well this statement reflects that shoes are of immense importance and they are an integral part of fashion. The origin of women shoes dates back to before Christ. In some parts of the world, they are a symbol of status.

Women are especially finicky about shoes compared to men. Besides jewelry, purses and clothes, there is definitely something special about women shoes. With the passage of time, womenís shoes have changed. At a regular intervals we usually see a new trend in shoes. Very interestingly, each new style is a reinvention of fashions from decades ago with some added innovation and twist in design.
Women's Shoes

Apart from style and designs of women shoes, another important aspect that needs to be considered, is the cost. We all want or need affordable shoes, especially for daily wear but we still want something stylish. Cheap womenís shoes are not only affordable but they can be designer inspired and in vogue.

If you want a few pairs of contemporary designer shoes, but have a tight budget, then look at the different cheap womenís shoes available. Although everyone covets branded shoes, but owing to a limited budget, cheap womenís shoes are certainly the best pick.

You will be quite surprised to find that you will find a great variety of styles and brands of shoes available for less than $25. So if you envy the pair of shoes that your friend owns, donít worry, you can also have an equally eye-catching pair of womenís shoes ñall you need to do is to survey the market and do some research and then pick the best pair for you.

There are several shoe stores that have a number of shoes available below 20$. You can also make your purchases online. Owning cheap womenís shoes is not at all difficult. Even though it might take a little research to make the ideal purchase but you will soon realize that itís worth it!

Usually, online stores sell relatively cheap womenís shoes. They can afford to offer reasonable discounts because they donít have to invest on floor costs or in house assistants. These online stores have hundreds of varieties of shoes that people from different parts of the world purchase. Thus they can afford to offer reasonably cheaper prices. Also, the online stores have special arrangements with several designers and so they can obtain somewhat discounted prices on shoes.

The discount prices usually vary in the range 25%-40%. However, be careful that you buy genuine shoes and do not end up buying the fake ones. If there is an excessively low price, then there is a big possibility of the shoes being a sham.

Also, try not to order replica designer shoes. The chief reason being that these replica designer shoes may harm your feet. The quality of materials in the shoes determines their comfort. So buying the replica shoes means that you will not only waste money but also you will not feel comfortable.

Keeping the above tips in mind while shoe shopping will make you the owner of a huge collection of some wonderful pairs of women's shoes at cheap prices. Spend some time but less money and you can definitely bag the best picks one could ever find.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Campers Shoes: A Carefree Way To Enjoy Adventure

Campers Shoes: A Carefree Way To Enjoy Adventure - Are you a camping freak? Do you go out for camping with your friends frequently? If yes, then you can't do without campers shoes. Campers shoes allow you to have a great camping experience. This is the reason you should go in for a good pair of campers shoes before even considering going out for camping.
Campers Shoes: A Carefree Way To Enjoy Adventure

Camping include several activities such as fishing, hunting, canoeing and sightseeing. These are just some of the activities. There are several activities that require you spending good time on your feet such as hiking the trails or hiking from your tent to the car. For all these activities, you require a good pair of camper shoes. Without camper shoes you can injure your feet or even damage them.

Remember that a good pair of campers shoes are a must have when you consider spending some time with nature. All campers shoes are not created equal. Hence, prospective campers require to be careful when shopping for camping footwear. First and foremost, you need to consider the kind of camping activities you will be involved in during your camping adventure. If you are simply going to be walking around the campsite, then a pair of light weight, comfortable campers shoes will solve the purpose. You can also purchase a shoe that is mid-rise or high style. The higher top will let you keep dirt and sand out of your shoes. It provides additional stability that is required badly for uneven ground.

There are people who are interested in going for long hikes along riverbeds or streams. There is nothing wrong in it. However, you require water-resistant shoes. Here, water-resistant does not simply mean 'waterproof'. Here water-resistant implies that the shoe will actually resist water but it is not impervious to water itself. You must be aware of the amount of discomfort one may face due to cold and blisters due to wet feet. Hence, it is necessary to keep in mind that the campers shoes you purchase are water-resistant if you consider going out on a water adventure.

In case, you are going to be walking along rocky trials or climbing along jagged rock surfaces, then campers shoe with a steel shank will best suit your requirements. Rocks are beautiful to look at but abusive for your feet. A steel shank has the tendency to absorb energy and protect your feet. This will also keep you comfortable and pain-free.

In case, you plan to walk along well marked and well traveled paths and a rocky trial, campers shoes with a steel shank will be not be able to save your feet. You should opt for a light weight shoe. This will be inexpensive for you and protect your feet well.

Never, ever settle for cheap quality campers shoes. Cheap quality campers shoes may be lighter on your wallet but tend to damage your feet in due course of time. These campers shoes are not durable and do not withstand problems faced by campers during camping. Try to find out campers shoes that are really worth spending your hard-earned money on and let you enjoy your camping experience.

You can visit some of the best online companies in this regard. These companies will provide you affordable deals.

Beach Shoes are the New Summer Fashion Trend

Beach Shoes are the New Summer Fashion Trend - Beach shoes have evolved significantly over the last few years. Gone are the days when flip-flops and Birkenstock's (remember that not all Birkenstock's are waterproof so choose the ones you'll wear to the beach wisely) were your only option. Though who can really live without a nice comfy pair of Birkenstock's or 12? Today there are all kinds of shoes made specifically to wear to the beach.
Beach Shoes are the New Summer Fashion Trend

From netted athletic shoes made for running and walking just along the edge of the water to jelly shoes, flip-flops, and dozens of varieties in between it is now more than ever possible to not only have shoes that are practical to wear to the beach, but fashionable in this endeavor as well.

Shoes say a lot about the wearer, there is really no exception for beach shoes. Any old flip-flops say the wearer isnít very concerned about their foot fashion. Of course there are flip-flops with embellishments that make them a little more fashionable than the dollar store variety. A nice pair of Birkenstockís says the wearer is wisely more concerned with quality and comfort than following trends. Impractical beach shoes or those that are likely to need repairs after coming into contract with water and/or sand say the owner has more money than sense. And shoes that are funky and fashionable and made for the beach say the wearer is fashionably chic.

When choosing the right beach shoes for you it is important that you consider what your beachside activities are going to be. If you want to run along the shoreline, you might want to purchase a pair of the beach friendly athletic shoes that are relatively new. If you want to be fashionable go for some of the trendy beach shoes, if you want the ultimate in comfort go for a nice pair of Birkenstockís, and flip-flops are always an old fall back that have been the shoe of choice of beach goers for ages.